‘Virginity is not
a dignity it’s just lack of opportunity’ Every Indian male must have used this
phrase at-least once in his teens or to say in his adulthood. I am not sure
about the above statement but it’s definitely not the only mark of purity.
I
was not much shocked on reading this news article last week, which made
headlines after officials in Betul district of Madhya Pradesh, conducted
virginity tests on prospective brides of a mass marriage. But I definitely want
to ask a question from those people who up-surd over Malika Sherawat’s remark’s
that ‘India is a regressive society’. What will you say about such episode?
Isn’t it a mark of regressive society? Isn’t it a mark of your double
standards? Doesn’t it show what really you think about the fairer sex? Doesn’t
it show that you treat woman as a sex slave only?
I
ask you, how important is it for a bride to be a virgin? And if it
is really important then why the same is not applicable for men also? This clearly
shows that in our so called great country, gender equality can only be found in
books.
Most
men want their brides to be virgins, which they themselves are not ready to
adhere to. For me it’s totally illogical, that an intact hymen represents the
total worth of a woman upon marriage. Even if you say otherwise; then let me
tell you, this small tissue can rupture during intense exercising, running or
working under harsh conditions and more importantly it can easily be replaced.
And
moreover, sex is not a crime it’s just a physical need. Earlier Indians got
married at the age of 18-20 or even before that; so there was no question of
pre-marital sex. Now the scenario has changed, average marriage age has moved
up the ladder to near thirties. But the needs of the body including sex are
same. So it’s better to have pre-marital sex than to think about it all the
time and becoming a despo.
I
know that some people will find this article inconvenient. In our Indian
society talking sex, even for the sake of education is considered illicit.
People who think like that and always howling about the Indian culture must not
forget that India is the place of Kama-sutra and that’s not a sin.
Please
stop considering pre-marital sex as taboo.
